(i came across this on a friend's post when she came across this from somewhere and share it with everyone. agree/disagree?)

I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out.

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were f***ing treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've f***ed yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bulls**t and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't f***ing want you, now.

Sincerely,

A Recovering Nice Guy
who's the rotten egg?

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Will be leaving this country in 4 hrs time. See you guys next month. :)

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Something I receive in my mailbox today..

Today, we would like to share something about FLEAS that we need to know in order to be successful!

What?!! Learning from pests? Are we going nuts? Perhaps, but do check them out because this story had so much impact on our lives and will impact yours too.

Story Of The Fleas

Did you know that unless you know how to train fleas, you will never have your dreams come true!
So, how do we train fleas?
It is actually very simple. You catch them put them in a glass jar, put the cover on and watch the,. They will jump up and down hitting the cover, trying to escape. But you and i know that they will not be able to escape because the cover is there.

Go do your stuff for 20mins and come back again. Now you observe something interesting. The Fleas are still jumping but they no longer jump as high, hitting the cover...

So what we do now is, we take away the cover. And you will see that the Fleas will NEVER be able to jump out. Because they have been CONDITIONED to only jump
that certain height...

We human being are similiar.. Since young, many of us have been put into a jar with a cover. Our lives have been protected from the dangerous world out there where businesses fails, where people are scheming, where investing make people lose money...

So our lives are planned and structured. Study hard, get a job and retire when you are too old to work... This kind of life is like a jar! And words and advices not to venture out of this planned zone is like the cover... a cover that is only in our heads.

But little did we know that our dreams are usually outside this jar we are put in, waiting for us to go and achieve and reach it... However, we have been conditioned for so long to think that these dreams are really for a selected few people.. not us.

The truth is people who eventually live their dreams are people who eventually got out of the jar and moved towards their dreams. They realised that there isn't a "cap" over their lives, only the ones they set
for themselves!

So, are you still in a jar? Do you still feel that there is a cap over you that says you cannot achieve your dreams.
For most people, they either become really comfortable with staying in the jar and choose to live and die in the jar. Everyday, they look out of the jar seeing people live dreams but tell themseleves that these people are lucky, talented and special...

Another small group (5%) eventually got so suffocated living in a jar they decided to strengthen themselves to jump right out and run towards their dreams. And eventually, they will reach their dreams after going through an amazing journey that may be filled with adversities!

You got to decide.. are you staying in that jar of yours and neve see your dreams come through, or have your already taken steps out of the jar, moving towards your dream destiny?
 

I got a monster of a new tv in my room now. Basking in all 40" of glory.

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Had a talk with one of my old friends today. I think I'm gonna quit my job damn soon.

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Anyone has a job to recommend??

I wanna work in the IR



and iIT WAS my birthday 1 1/2 hrs ago..

Happy Birthday to Me!! :)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY 3 FRIENDS..


Joe the Fighter Pilot




WOO the Woo Wen Qi




And

last but not least..


Audrey Teng Hui Hui..




 

My friend Joan is damn cute...
I think she damn easily kena cheated..(see msn convo below)

But don't you people out there try to cheat her..
Coz i'll whack you.. and i bet Jodin will too.. hahahs..
Afterall i known her for 3 years.. When she first went into TP and now she gonna graduate soon..
From the VERY NOISY girl back then...
To the STILL VERY NOISY girl now...
She has not changed at all..

Here's a picture of her..